Alexander Atlas is a man who was used to winning. He knows how the dating game works. We had the wonderful opportunity to speak with him. Check out the interview below.
Hi, Alex! Thank you for chatting with us about The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets. Tell us what inspired the book.
The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets is the sequel to The Girls You Don’t Take Home To Mama. To be honest, I felt it was only fair to tell both sides of the story since I’ve been the prey and the predator. Also, it was a response to the readers of The Girls You Don’t Take Home To Mama”. They asked, “What about the boys?” So I felt it was only fair to give my perspectives on both men and women. This book was needed to balance the odds in today’s world of new era dating.
You have some awesome advice in the book. How did you select your chapters?
During the brainstorming of this book, there were so many subjects I wanted to touch on. I had to narrow them down to the ones that would apply to today’s time. From that point, I just expanded on the subjects I felt would be most beneficial to the reader, my target audience. With The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets, I reached out to a few of my female friends and asked what questions they had concerning failed relationships. The majority of them all agreed, they never saw the heartbreak coming. I touched on a few of the tricks and traps in the book but many go unnoticed until the end. I could not fit everything I wanted to say in this book to be on the looked out for part 2 of The Boys You Don’t Take Home series. Yes, I’ve got more.
Readers can expect the honest truth, unwrapped; a brutal dose of reality from an unexpected source. Although many people search for the truth, only a few are really ready for its reveal. Some are so hurt that they just don’t want to know. Unfortunately, the truth can be downright ugly. I want people who are in search of true love to find it without bumping Into that monster called deceit. Being in a healthy loving relationship is exhilarating. Everyone should experience it, we all deserve it, even for a moment. So, if I can shed some light on paths not to take and expose traps for what they are, then I have done what I set out to do. Some of these stories can be comical, but only if you weren’t the one being made a fool of. Why not learn from the mistakes of others? Sometimes, life is not fair but that is no excuse to stop searching for true happiness.
How would you describe your book to someone who is looking for advice?
I would ask them would they rather hear it from the horse’s mouth or someone who has been watching from the sidelines? The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets is written and given to you from a male perspective who was actually one of those “boys”. Of course I am not proud of the way I treated others and hopefully, this book is a small atonement to those I hurt in the past. Those “boys” are still out there, trapping unsuspecting females like flies in a spider’s web. Hopefully, I can show you where to look for that web so the life is not sucked out of you.
Do you believe it’s important to share a male point of review on dating?
Yes, I do. Men and women process information so differently. Why not get all the points of views so you can make an informed decision about who you allow being in your life? Does he even deserve your time? A male point of view, unlike another females point of view, gives you a new set of eyes to help you assess your situation; defining your relationship. How could a woman fully explain how a male thinks and does what he does? A female can only assume how the male mind works in situations such as this. Normally, a female will think and see with her heart. She will allow emotions to cloud what she can see is irrational behavior, but the heart wants what the heart wants, ignoring the pain of such depict in the end. Here is a book, for the most part, written emotionless and straight to the point with no misdirections or shortcuts. Now, I do believe women can come close to explaining certain situations that happen in failed relationships. Some women are pretty good at dissecting the boys who are mentioned in The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets. But who better in explaining the mayhem and chaos than a person who at one point in time was a Boy you don’t take home.
Again, I have a lot of female friends. Most of the time all I had to do was sit back and listen to them complain and vent about failed relationships. There isn’t really much research you can do on a topic like this. You have to live it, go through it to be able to explain it the way I have. Believe me, I have the battle scars across my heart to prove I was a soldier. As a wounded veteran in the war of relationships, I can actually describe and explain where the pitfalls are. The creation of this book took me on a long journey, like a roller coaster ride all the way to the finish line.
Thus far, what has been the best experience writing your book?
I have to say the best experience in writing The Boys You Don’t Take Home: Game Secrets is the readers’ response and reviews. I have so many messages and emails on how readers wish this book was out years ago and why it took so long for a book like this to come out. Not to mention, all the relationship questions I get from the curious minds out there. The overwhelming response made me realize I have more answers to give, which will be addressed in my next book.’s Most of the time I simply redirect a reader to a certain chapter in the book that applies to their situation. But there is a few that are going through situations and are experiencing tricks that I’m writing for the 2nd installment for The Boys You Don’t Take Home series. The game is constantly changing and evolving. Stay tuned…
Do you have any upcoming projects that we haven’t mentioned?
Other than getting ready to complete my first fiction novel as well as the 2nd installments of The Girls You Don’t Take Home and The Boys You Don’t Take Home, I’m currently working on a fitness training You-Tube channel as well as writing up few a reality TV show concepts. I plan to accomplish as much as possible in the year 2018 and make as many connections with positive people as I can. The skies were never the limit for me because I’ve always wanted to walk on the moon.
Complete this sentence, if I had an opportunity to do anything I want, I would do ___________.
Everything I aim to achieve as well as be a great father to my kids and a great husband to my wife.
Editor’s Note: You can purchase the book via Amazon.